Wedding Photos You Do Not Need

by Jamie Sanford on April 5, 2015

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I am not a wedding blogger. However, in my work for Noritake, I read a lot of wedding magazines, a lot of wedding blogs, etc. I have never seen this particular topic covered, and I am so incredibly frustrated by it to this day that I am compiling a list of the wedding photos you do not need to take.

(Please note that my wedding photos are not good in the first place. William and I look strange to me in all of them, and I am struggling to share them here. I have weird makeup and hair, it’s a whole thing. Will confirms that I don’t look right either, so I guess it is good that we agree?)

We look much better and more like ourselves in the photos from our Vegas Vow Renewal, back on 11-11-11.

I should photoshop that shinyness out on all of us.

1. Photos of groups that do not include your new spouse.

We wasted SO MUCH TIME on our wedding day taking versions of photos that didn’t include both my husband and me. Why it didn’t occur to me when Mom was giving me her photo list, I do not know. However, this is the real shit: no one wants formal, posed wedding pictures (especially of groups) that don’t include both people getting married. It is asinine to get photos of you, your parents, and your siblings without your new spouse. We did not think of this and so I have a version without Will and with him. It is a complete waste of time to do this.

2. Photos of subsets of groups of 6-8 people or less.

If you have between 6 and 8 people in a photo, you probably do not need to take additional versions of that photo with smaller subsets of the first photo. More than that, I can understand that it might be worthwhile, but it really can save you time in the long run.

3. Wedding party photos that don’t include all of the wedding party.

I will be sad for the rest of my life when I look at my favorite picture of the wedding party and then realize that my 2 nephews aren’t in it. If you have babies as ring bearers I can understand it, but the kids were both old enough to have been in all of the photos. This was a miss on my part – and made the photo I love so much almost unusable because of the missing party members.

I also am not 100% certain that I needed individual images of myself with every one of the bridesmaids, and Will didn’t need himself with every one of the groomsmen.

4. More than 3-5 poses of you and your new spouse.

File under “pay the money for a photographer that you really like and trust.” (This is a whole other story, but we ended up with the shadiest photo studio.) We missed almost our entire cocktail hour because we were being photographed together. The photos are pretty awful, and none of them ended up anywhere except in the proof album. The photographer had every opportunity to look at the screen on his camera and suggest something else, and just didn’t.

We had spent so much time before the wedding doing photos (I think the first look is a great idea, we didn’t really do it that way but the idea is lovely) that we were tired of smiling after the ceremony. We could hear all of our guests in the cocktail space having a great time, and continued taking photos, even though we were both over it. In hindsight, I think we thought that this was what we were supposed to do. I am older and know better now.

I see no reason why you should not be able to sit down with your photographer at the beginning of any cocktail hour photo times and ask to see the images that have already been taken of you and your new spouse. If we had done this, I’m sure we would have agreed that we were fine with what was there. In addition, candid photos of our guests at the cocktail hour could have been taken. Sadly, we don’t have any photos from the cocktail hour at all.

5. Anything else that does not interest you!

Ultimately, you are the boss. In addition, you know what kind of style you and your betrothed have, and what sorts of images are appropriate for you.

I recommend making the shot list weeks before your wedding, and reviewing it more than once (and then once more) to see if you can eliminate unnecessary photos. Your wedding day will go by in a blur, and you will probably never look back and say “wow, I wish we had taken this picture without you, honey.” Minimize the number of posed wedding photos, and maximize the time spent with people you love. Tell your photographer to take LOTS of candid photos of your guests, they are so fun!

What wedding photos do you wish you hadn’t wasted time taking? Share in the comments!

Update/Follow-Up: Upon re-reading this post, perhaps the reason we don’t look right is because we aren’t wearing anything close to our normal stuff. We really did do and wear what we thought we were supposed to, and that is a waste of your time. I should have been wearing a black dress and I should NOT have had those nails. I cannot stress enough that you should be YOU on your wedding day.

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