Robert Pattinson

On The Vilification of Kristen Stewart

by Jamie Sanford on July 26, 2012

I do not think I’ve hidden the fact that I’m into Twilight. I avoided it for a while, but then saw the trailer for the first movie and was intrigued by the hot guy playing the vampire, so I bought the first book. It all went down the Twilight rabbit hole from there.

Photo by Mark Seliger for Harper’s Bazaar.

The Scandal

So, I’ve gotten very used to seeing a lot of Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson around online, especially on Tumblr, where I started following a few Twilight-focused blogs. They are PROLIFIC to say the least. It was no different yesterday (July 25, 2012), when the news broke that Kristen Stewart had cheated on Robert Pattinson with director Rupert Sanders, who Kristen had worked with on the recent film Snow White and the Huntsman. First reported by Us Weekly (who published photos of Kristen and Rupert together), and quickly picked up by People magazine, the news spread like wildfire. As someone who reads way too much celebrity and entertainment news, I knew that People magazine is not one to post things without some level of confirmation. It wasn’t much later that official statements came from both Kristen Stewart and Rupert Sanders, owning up to their indiscretion (which allegedly was just a bunch of making out? I don’t claim to know the truth here.) and apologizing to their significant others (he is married and has 2 young children, Kristen has been dating Robert Pattinson for a few years). This was actually the first time that Kristen Stewart had publicly acknowledged her relationship with Robert Pattinson.

“I’m deeply sorry for the hurt and embarrassment I’ve caused to those close to me and everyone this has affected. This momentary indiscretion has jeopardized the most important thing in my life, the person I love and respect the most, Rob. I love him, I love him, I’m so sorry.”

I don’t want to get into Rupert’s apology, but he is apparently also sorry.

My heart broke a bit when I read her statement. Not only did she officially recognize her relationship with Rob, but she laid it out that she is devastated and truly sorry. She’s been notoriously private (him too), and this is definitely a change.  Apparently enough of a change that Tumblr and Twitter were blowing up with stories about how the pictures were fake and how Kristen would never release a statement because she doesn’t do that.


I have so much trouble understanding people who are online all the time, who must read TONS of entertainment news, and who would think:

1 – that a news outlet would make something up and say that it is an “official statement.”
2 – that representatives for 2 different people would not have rejected the validity of said statements if they were in fact fake.
3 – that the pictures of these 2 people together are faked, even after both of them have admitted to what they did.

Get over it. This is real. Your girl Kristen Stewart has not released statements like this before, but she also hasn’t been in a situation where photographic proof of her cheating on her very famous (and famously hot) boyfriend is literally ALL OVER THE INTERNET. She loves him and is sorry, and knew that staying silent would not make it any better. There’s a first time for everything, and this is the time for her to officially say that she loves this person and is sorry that her epic screwup is all over the place.

Yes, cheating is bad.

There are reactions all over the place that are just out of hand. Girls crying on YouTube, fan sites shutting down because Kristen Stewart did something shady with a married man, etc. They can all do and say what they want, but I think this is a heinous example of how creepy the level to which people are invested in the lives of celebrities is now.

Kristen Stewart, while the current highest-paid actress in Hollywood, is 22 years old. Yes, she’s been dating Robert Pattinson for a long time, and yes, she “cheated” (or something) with a married man with whom she had a professional relationship. None of this situation is good. However, I also did some shady things in my early 20s with someone in a relationship, and I am really glad that I wasn’t vilified for it on the Internet for millions of people to see and discuss. Now, I see all of these people who claim to be fans of someone freaking out and saying they hate her for doing that, and I cannot help but feel bad for her. I also sympathize with the real victims of this, those who were cheated ON, because they are hurt and it’s going to haunt them, especially as these are 2 people in the public eye themselves.

If you were someone’s fan before, wouldn’t you put yourself in the position of “what would I do if I were friends with this person?” All of the people who are spouting venom all over the Internet about Kristen Stewart would not be doing that if they were friends with her. You can be disappointed in someone’s behavior and still love them, and still forgive them. Everyone makes mistakes, and while forgetting isn’t likely, forgiveness is divine.

How long until the gap between the way people would treat people they don’t actually know and someone in their actual life doesn’t exist anymore? It’s a terrifying prospect, that all compassion would disappear from the world and we all could do something someday that would turn us into what Kristen Stewart was on the Internet yesterday.

NOTE: The mood on Tumblr today seems to have calmed a bit, there is a lot of positive support being posted too. I don’t want to give the impression that it is all bad.

NOTE 2: Friends defend their friends – and also KNOW WHAT THE TRUTH IS, which is the real deal. See Giovanni Agnelli.

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Remember Me (100 Films in 2011)

by Jamie Sanford on July 21, 2011

42. Remember Me (not available to stream on Netflix, available to buy digitally on Amazon)

Here is the Remember Me trailer.

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Spoiler alert! Remember Me is a 2010 film starring Robert Pattinson and Emilie de Ravin.  It centers around Tyler and Ally, connected by the fact that Tyler had a run-in with her father (a cop, played by Chris Cooper) and the fact that they’ve both lost close family members.  Tyler is clearly lost, working at the bookstore and auditing classes at NYU. Ally is going to school but still living at home and doesn’t seem all that grown up.

Hmm, Robert Pattinson is hot in this movie.

They meet each other and things get serious very quickly, especially after an unfortunate incident between Ally and her father that leads to her moving in with Tyler and his roommate.

Things go well and they spend time with Tyler’s mother, stepfather and sister, who all love him, and occasionally his father (Pierce Brosnan), who seems very cold and closed off, which looks to be a result of losing his other son to suicide.  This especially hurts Tyler’s little sister, Caroline, played so well by Ruby Jerins.

Naturally, Ally eventually finds out about the link between Tyler and her father, and finds out that the reason Tyler approached her in the first place was at the prodding of his roommate, as a plan for how to get back at the cop who beat him up.  Drama ensues, Ally goes back to her father’s house, and it takes an unfortunate event that happens to Caroline to bring them back together. I will leave the rest off, because going further will spoil the movie beyond anyone wanting to watch it.

I liked the movie a lot – even though I am 31 and happy and settled in life, I can remember and still relate to watching people in their early 20s struggling with figuring things out, and then falling in love and having that be another crazy thing to deal with.  I can definitely recommend seeing this movie.  Bring tissues.

Remember Me is available on DVD from Amazon for $14.49.

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Sights and Sounds #10

by Jamie Sanford on April 13, 2011

Sights and Sounds #10! I’ve been meaning to write one of these for a while but haven’t gotten around to it.  I had a nice set of posts already written so I haven’t written much – I’ve had family visiting and lots going on with that, etc, so I need to get back into the groove with writing posts.

Rihanna and Britney Spears created a remix version of Rihanna’s hot song “S&M.” Please let there be a video.

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I am really interested in seeing Water for Elephants, if only because Robert Pattinson looks hot in the trailer.

I had this image saved from somewhere, I know it’s from Quotable Cards.  You can shop for the magnets here.

That’s enough for this time. See you soon!

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Curious Tuesday 008

by Jamie Sanford on July 4, 2010

I am participating in Gala Darling’s Curious Tuesday project.

Curious Tuesday 008

1. Where do you find inspiration?

All over the place. Watching TV, reading blogs I subscribe to, Twitter, magazines.

2. Have you got any hobbies or interests you’ve let lapse & wish you would take up again?

I’ve been slacking with photography. I am really not a fan of being out in the heat/sun during the summer, so that’s a problem. I need to start making myself do some GOYA (Get Off Your Ass) photo excursions so that I don’t forget what shutter speed is.

Humpback Tail 6.

The last set of photos I took with my SLR was from our trip to Provincetown, and that was over a month ago.

3. One tea party. Ten invitations. Who do you invite?

  • My husband
  • Lady Gaga
  • Robert Pattinson
  • Barack Obama
  • Someone from Summit Entertainment with power (I need a contact to discuss a possible product connection for Breaking Dawn and I have no idea how to connect with someone!) (Also Robert Pattinson will be there to get me connected.)
  • My friend Alex
  • RuPaul
  • Bill Clinton
  • Daria Morgendorfer
  • Elton John

4. Who was your favourite teacher at school & why?

Ms G from 3rd and 5th grade was awesome, maybe because I was exposed to her in weird situations like when we ended up on the same Caribbean cruise and she got tipsy with my parents on a beach in St. Maarten.

5. Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship?

Yes, with my husband. We met online in March 2000, in person in July 2000, and didn’t live in the same place until June/July 2003. I think we lasted because we didn’t have any other experience with each other. We’ve lived together for 7 years now, I could never go back to being in a long-distance thing now, at least not for more than a short period of time.

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Sunday Link Party!

by Jamie Sanford on May 31, 2010

Week 4.

My photo of the week is from my new set of photos from my recent trip to Provincetown, MA with my husband.  We went on a whale-watching excursion, and had an amazing experience with a humpback whale that came up to our boat and hung out for an extended period of time.

Tail and air poof.

I really like this shot, where it is evident that they were moving together by the simultaneous tail and exhalation poof.

10 Google tricks, and then 9 more. (Web Worker Daily)

3-D Paper Dolls at Couturious – like Polyvore and ShopStyle but with a real model. They need to add more body types though. (Bub.Blicio.Us)

Here’s my cute look that I made there, it’s my favorite jeans and t-shirt with some beautiful accessories.

Basic Jamie

Washing your hands after making a big decision can apparently help you avoid second-guessing. (Lifehacker)

This promo makes me laugh…

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